Cuando todo se derrumba (When Everything Collapses)

Escrito por Pema Chödrön

Narrado por Silvia Sierra

El termino chino para la palabra "crisis" consta de dos ideogramas: uno significa dificultad; el otro, oportunidad. La ancestral sabiduria china refleja de este modo que, ademas de conflictivos, los tiempos de crisis son tambien tiempos "adecuados" que encierran la oportunidad y la promesa de nuevas y mas amplias posibilidades. Con esta obra calida, llena de aliento y de consejos sabios, aprenderemos a reconocer que la vida es siempre un buen maestro y un buen amigo, incluso en los momentos mas criticos. Y que esos momentos dificiles, cuando uno se siente descentrado y todo parece derrumbarse, constituyen una situacion ideal para crecer y madurar, pues nos permiten librarnos de las actitudes y creencias erroneas que nos mentenian atrapados, y expandir el corazon y la mente mas alla de nuestros antiguos limites.

• Idioma: Español
• Editorial: Recorded Books, Inc.
• Fecha de lanzamiento: 19 dic 2008
• ISBN: 9781436183680

Comentarios para Cuando todo se derrumba (When Everything Collapses)

[jrobinw · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Extremely powerful book. Will read again!

[librolindsay · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

I truly value this book. Chodron clarifies and redefines some of the main obstacles I've come to in trying to "understand" Buddhism, which mainly surround my perception of its seeming negativity. Perhaps it's because she's a woman (I've only read male Buddhist perspectives so far), maybe it's because she's an American (I've only read Asian Buddhist perspectives), or maybe it's because she's just a good writer. Either way, Chodron focuses more on the journey and less on the destination, which makes it great for those who find the ground has slipped from beneath them. I will always come back to this book.

*****

I can't tell you just how many times I've come back to this book over the years. Chodron gives me a loving kick in the pants every single time and reminds me to open myself up to every experience, no matter if it's the best or shittiest.

[evenlake_1 · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

A good explanation of some foundational Buddhist beliefs, written with Chodron's typical humility and wisdom. The title is a little off-putting, as it is not really a recovery kind of book, but is for all times, not just difficult ones.

[ionas_7 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Pema Chödrön is one of my favourite spiritual authors. I think this is the third of her books I’ve read.I’ll start with a few ”negative” aspects of her books and this book – there is no index, and no definitions of her special Tibetan (?) terms. Some of these terms we may know beforehand but often I, at any rate, do not. Sometimes she does explain the terms but I forget what she said, thus the need for an index.One such term is dathun, another dharma (I know, I should know what that means).Pema is an American Buddhist who lives in a Tibetan monastery in Nova Scotia. She is a student of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, and I will have to try and get hold of his books too.I’m very fond of her teachings though I can’t say I always understand them in full; sometimes her writing is a bit vague and metaphorical. And what does she really mean by “the groundlessness of our situation”?I was lucky to get hold of this book from the library before it closed, for an indefinite period of time, it seems.In the author’s introduction, she quotes her teacher as saying “Chaos should be regarded as extremely good news”, and this seems to be one of the main tenets of her teachings. (So we can really benefit from her books in these present Corona days – we can benefit from the uncertainties of this time.)Pema tells us of her own problems and how she learnt from them.When she first became the director of Gampo Abbey it was like being boiled alive. Everything fell apart. All her unfinished business “was exposed vividly and accurately in living Technicolor, not only to myself, but to everyone else as well”.Things come together and then they fall apart, then they come together again and fall apart again. “”The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen, room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”“Thinking that we can find some lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what in Buddhism is called samsara, a hopeless cycle that goes round and round endlessly and causes us to suffer greatly.”The first noble truth of the Buddha points out that suffering is inevitable.Pema’s whole reality gave out on her when her husband told her he was having an affair and wanted a divorce. This saved her life. Annihilation of her old dependent clinging self was the only way to go.To stay with shakiness, a broken heart, a feeling of hopelessness, is the path of true awakening. “Getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos … is the spiritual path.”In meditation we start to see what’s happening. We’re just being with our experience, whatever it is. We “lean toward the discomfort of life” and see it clearly rather than protect ourselves from it”.The very moment is the perfect teacher, and it’s with us wherever we are.Chögyam Rinpoche taught that in meditation we should “put very light attention on the out-breath.”The out-breath is the object of meditation. Rinpoche advises “Touch the out-breath and let it go.”When thoughts occur we merely say to ourselves “thinking”. When we do this, we are cultivating that unconditional friendliness toward whatever arises in our mind - maitri, or loving-kindness.Meditation is about opening and relaxing with whatever arises. It’s definitely not meant to repress anything.Pema hears from many who think they are the worst person in the world – these are people with no loving-kindness for themselves.The most important of all is to develop maitri, loving-kindness, and an unconditional friendship with ourselves.We must practice gentleness and letting go.Pema teaches that hopelessness is the basic ground. “If we make the journey to get security, we’re completely missing the point”. We should begin with hopelessness.We need to accept that we’re going to die. Death and hopelessness provide proper motivation for living an insightful, compassionate life.Kinship with the suffering of others is the discovery of bodhichitta, which means “noble or awakened heart”.We awaken the bodhichitta when we can no longer shield ourselves from the “vulnerability of our condition, ---the basic fragility of existence”.In difficult times it is only bodhichitta that heals.The practice of tonglen – sending and receiving – is designed to awaken bodhichitta. We take in pain and send out pleasure.Whenever we encounter suffering in any form we breathe it in with the wish that everyone could be free of pain. Whenever we encounter happiness in any form we breathe it out with the wish that everyone could feel joy. When we protect ourselves from pain, that protection becomes the armour, “armour that imprisons the softness of the heart”. When we breathe in pain, it penetrates that armour. The armour begins to fall apart and “a kindness and a tenderness begin to emerge.”In order to feel compassion for others, we must feel compassion for ourselves.Tonglen practice is a method for connecting with our own and others’ suffering.We begin the practice by taking on the suffering of a person we know to be hurting and wish to help. We breathe in others’ pain so they can be well and when we breathe out we send them what we think would bring them relief.Tonglen can be done for those who are ill, those who are dying or have died, anyone in pain.The path is the goal.Trungpa Rinpoche said “Whatever occurs in the confused mind is regarded as the path. Everything is workable.”I would recommend this little simply written book to encourage you on your path. It will give you knowledge, insight and inspiration.

[karen.helfrick · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

I found this book to be full of ideas and theories that I was not familiar with. It is a collection of talks and teachings that Chodron had given throughout her life as a Buddhist Nun. I am not as familiar with this style, so I found them slightly difficult to read and very redundant. Maybe her style is just to talk in circles, but it feels a lot like a transcript for a TED talk, and I think ultimately i would get more out of an audiobook than I did this. It will take a few re-reads go let it all sink in.

[cavernism · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

A must-read for those interested in or practicing Buddhism. I know I'll be reading this many more times throughout my life.

[jmoncton_1 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Pema Chodron's sage wisdom can be applied to so many situations. I picked up this book because it sort of feels like we're at war in this country. Every one is so angry and there is a strong us vs. them mentality that is shouted at us, whether it's reading the news or browsing the web. Even so many of the hot titles this year have been polarizing. So the title of this book seemed like this would be a perfect choice to read right now. What I discovered wasn't advice on dealing with the election and red vs. blue, but wisdom on handling conflict, whether it's external or from within. This book is pretty short, but there is a lot packed into it. I found myself really slowing down as I read this. Rather then going from one chapter to the next, I would pause and spend a few days of reflection thinking about her words. This is a book that you can (and should) read repeatedly. Excellent for anyone on their own personal growth journey.

[ghr4 · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

There is certainly great wisdom and valuable Buddhist teachings in Pema Chodron's When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times; however, this is not a book to assist one trying to cope in the midst of life's crisis episodes. This requires multiple readings over an extended period of time for the lessons, which often seem counterintuitive, to take hold. I'm looking forward to future readings, which will inevitably provide further insights.

[bookneurd · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Then Things Fall Apart is the third book I've read by Pema Chödrön, including The Places That Scare You and Living Beautifully. I also have the Compassion Cards, which I pull every few days. I am obviously reading these books for a reason, haha! I found the teachings that she shared in this book extremely poignant for this time in our world, but less easy to follow than the others at this point in my life. The edition that I have is the 20th Anniversary Edition and is still completely relevant today. Actually, since this book was written, I think that the world has only become more obviously uncertain and groundless, making it an excellent choice for insightful advice right now! This book is much more like the cards; little nuggets of wisdom connected by the theme, but not necessarily flowing one into the other. The Places that Scare You and Living Beautifully are formatted as manuals for living fearlessly and for the three commitments required for working with groundlessness, respectively. When Things Fall Apart is a series of short perspectives for the times in which we live. They are indeed pieces of advice and because they are curated from talks she gave, have a random sort of quality to them.I typically use her books as a daily reading in the morning, which works well for this format.At this point in my journey, though, I think the level of randomness is a little too challenging to take in. I resonate more strongly with the books that have a sequence to the teachings and lead me to a particular way of looking at things. I still don't really understand the basic concepts of buddhism, and I'm still trying to get a picture of how they form the teachings. If I had the foundation to anchor this advice too, I think it would be a lot more poignant for me, so I'm probably going to come back to this book in the future, when I'm looking more for reminders of what I've heard before. For now, I'm rating it a 4 out of 5 starts, and I would probably give it a 3.5 for where I'm at personally. I think I'm going to look for her book on meditation next.

[margaretpinardauthor · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Another pick-up-and-read. I guess that's all I have time for these days. BUt I like this lately- while not a substitute for human interaction, which i have been missing, it is a good thought-provoker and meditative text.

[dawndowney · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Like many others, I came to this book during a crisis, so long ago I don't remember which crisis it was. Pema made it clear it wasn't my fault, I wasn't crazy, I was just human. It took several years of retreats, dharma talks, books, and sangha conversations, for me to even begin to see the underlying messages in the book: things fall apart for everybody; things will fall apart again. And every time they do, this book will still be relevant.

[viviennestrauss · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

This is now marked as "finished", however, this book will remain eternally on the end table where I drink my coffee. This is a book that can be opened up and read anywhere and what is discussed seems to apply that day. Better than any self-help book I've ever read. Obviously this is a lifelong path rather than a goal set and attained. This book has provided such comfort in a "common sense" manner in the most difficult time of my life thus far.

[margaret.pinard · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Another pick-up-and-read. I guess that's all I have time for these days. BUt I like this lately- while not a substitute for human interaction, which i have been missing, it is a good thought-provoker and meditative text.

[zenhead_1 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Chodron does it again. Interpreting the often difficult to transmit wisdom of Buddhist ideas into practical application for our every-day life. Things fall apart, but we can learn to see this as an opportunity for growth and expansion.

[fsmichaels · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

An interesting book, thought-provoking. One to return to again and again at different times in your life.

[manadabomb · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Chodron is an American Buddhist nun and is apparently a prolific writer. Going through some difficult times now, this book called to me from the Border's book shelf.I'm going to admit that I started off reading this book thinking "What the hell are you talking about?" Leaning into the sharp points, facing your demons, embracing suffering - all sounds well and good but HOW do you do it? Buddhism is all abut guidelines and rarely ever says "Here is how you do this"The more I read, though, the more I got it. I need to be kinder to myself. Less critical, less admonishment. The underlying factor here is if you can't have compassion for yourself, it's going to be difficult to be compassionate towards others. There is no right or wrong, no good or evil. Things just ARE. We're all here for a short time, so why not give yourself a break and lighten up a little?I'm a classic case of escapism. When things are difficult, I do my best but I always retreat; into books, classes, knitting, what have you. Chodron encourages us to not reach for comfort when things go rotten. That's going to be mighty hard to do.There's a really good chapter about not harming others. While you may not deliberately harm people, chances are you are doing harm when you're upset, embarrassed, angry, etc. Words, actions, emotions all mean the world and you have to be aware of what you say, do and feel. Being aware of how you react to things is even applauded as a great first step.I'm going to try to put these things into practice. We'll see how it goes :)

[hafowler_1 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

I read this book when my favorite pet was dying of cancer. It really helped me find some peace.

[chersbookitlist · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Another compassionate, comforting and inspiring book by Pema. She appeals to people of all religions who are looking for ways to connect with love and tenderness to their own hearts, and the hearts of others

[shawnd_72 · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

This book has twenty two chapters related to different aspects of healing from pain and how to handle difficult situations. The text bounces from philosophy to self-help/encouragement, to Buddhist fables, to meditation and though techniques, and the like. The structure of the book as that each chapter in itself has many of these thematic elements. As such, one could decide to read just one chapter and it would likely touch on some key thoughts and changes in approach that would lead the reader to get loose from some emotions (or in some cases get closer to emotions) around their situation. As Chodron is in vogue in contemporary Western Buddhist practice, the book perhaps predictably fits with some of the philosophies from others in press in the early 2000's like Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach.I did not particularly find the book helpful. It's very scattered and very 'jumpy'. It does not explain points or particularly back them up as much as put out a stream of thought which then jumps to another in the very next paragraph. Imagine speaking by phone to a guru with limited time, where they are introducing instruction and concepts about how to relive your suffering within a set time limit. So the pacing is not at all relaxed. It also introduces more than a little Tibetan or Sanskrit words, which is not uncommon occasionally, but the frequency is alarming when the Western reader has more use for the concept than the definition and the word--and unlike other authors she does not dwell on the concept, but per the pacing, jumps to other somewhat repetitive ideas. Alas, this is a personal interpretation, and perhaps reading this as a man I don't mesh with the style as I would if I were a woman, or of a different age. Many seem to like the book. If you are a fast-paced person who isn't going to read this cover to cover, it could be very helpful and rewarding when situations are tough.

[lepapillonvert · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Once again, I am grateful for the wisdom of this gifted teacher and healer. If you are going through or have ever been through challenges in your life or have questioned your spiritual views, read this book. It will assist you.

[hanuman2_1 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

I'll try to summarize this sometime, but just read it, for the love of god, read it!

[rayski_1 · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

Buddhist teachings on dealing with troubled times. Book is probably better read in sections as you need it rather than cover to cover. Not as good as Lama Surya Das.

[heidialice · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

A collection of lectures by one of the most accessible writers on Buddhism. Chodron gets to the heart of human pain and gently instructs on how to simply be with it, while introducing basic Buddhist concepts. It helps me to connect with others' spirituality when there is a personal component, so I greatly appreciated the references to Chodron's life, especially pre-Buddhism. Her humility, great compassion and straight-forward style make for an easy if thought-provoking read. Essential for when one is at wit's end with life.A good introductory work on the practice of meditation, best supplemented by other works and in-person teachings for those who want to seriously practice and meditate.

[beau0p0laurence · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

I refer to this book as "my bible" I've given it away about 14 times because it is so relevent to the human condition