El Sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida

Escrito por Mark Manson

Narrado por Eduardo Ruales

¡Más de 2 millones de ejemplares vendidos! 

Descubre cómo dejar de obsesionarte con la positividad superficial y centrarte en lo que de verdad importa en tu vida. Esta guía refrescante y honesta te ayudará a enfrentarte a verdades difíciles y a encontrar valor, claridad y una felicidad duradera. 

Durante décadas nos han dicho que el pensamiento positivo es la clave para una vida feliz y enriquecedora. «Al caraj* la positividad», dice Mark Manson. «Seamos sinceros, todo está j*dido y tenemos que vivir con eso». En su popularísimo blog de Internet, Manson no se anda con rodeos. Dice las cosas como son: una dosis de verdad cruda, refrescante y honesta que escasea hoy en día. El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj* es su antídoto contra la mentalidad consentidora y de «sintámonos todos bien» que ha infectado a la sociedad y malcriado a una generación, premiándola con medallas de oro por el mero hecho de participar. 

Manson argumenta, apoyándose tanto en investigaciones académicas como en chistes oportunos, que mejorar nuestras vidas no depende de nuestra capacidad para convertir limones en limonada, sino de aprender a digerir mejor los limones. Los seres humanos son imperfectos y limitados, «no todo el mundo puede ser extraordinario, hay ganadores y perdedores en la sociedad, y parte de ello no es justo ni culpa tuya». 

Manson nos aconseja conocer nuestras limitaciones y aceptarlas. Una vez que aceptamos nuestros miedos, defectos e incertidumbres, una vez que dejamos de huir y evitar y empezamos a enfrentarnos a las verdades dolorosas, podemos empezar a encontrar el valor, la perseverancia, la honestidad, la responsabilidad, la curiosidad y el perdón que buscamos. 

Hay un número limitado de cosas que nos importan un caraj*, así que tenemos que averiguar cuáles son las que realmente importan, aclara Manson. Aunque el dinero está bien, preocuparse por lo que haces con tu vida está mejor, porque la verdadera riqueza es la experiencia. El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj* es una bofetada refrescante a una generación que necesita hablar con la verdad, lleno de historias entretenidas y de un humor profano y despiadado, ayudándonos a llevar una vida más feliz.

Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck - Second Edition 

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

• Idioma: Español
• Editorial: HarperEnfoque
• Fecha de lanzamiento: 30 jul 2024
• ISBN: 9781400350056

Mark Manson

Mark Manson is the New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (more than ten million copies sold worldwide) and a star blogger. Manson sold more than 250,000 copies of his self-published book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. Before long, his off-the-cuff voice was resonating with a much broader audience via his brilliantly counterintuitive essays on happiness. With titles like “The Most Important Question of Your Life,” “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” and “No, You Can’t Have It All,” his work was reposted by Elizabeth Gilbert, Chris Hemsworth, Will Smith, and Chelsea Handler. His site—markmanson.net—is read by two million people each month. Manson lives in New York City.

Comentarios para El Sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*

[Caro Martí · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

No logré conectar con sus ejemplos arrogantes. Lejos de ser un buen libro

[YO SUPRA · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Me gustó.ucho. Tuve una gran conexión con la parte final relacionada con la conciencia de la muerte y su efecto en la vida diaria

[hellen.martinez.littleeinsteins · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Es excelente para hacerte reconsiderar a que le das importancia.

[francisco guzman · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Me gustó mucho. Muy claro y muy ameno, lo volveré a leer

[Claudia Rocha · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Interesante pero es algo molesto el tono arrogante con el que es leído. No debería tener entonación en realidad, un tono neutro sería mejor y ya que cada quien opine si lo que escribe el autor es pura arrogancia o no

[Bernardita Bernales · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

La honradez del encuentro del autor con su trayectoria a través de la construcción de sí mismo con sus errores y sus aciertos!

[luzdaryalmario5 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Me sorprendió su contenido, nunca lo había visto desde esa perspectiva

[jackrabbitjam · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

The title is deceiving, which makes the premise more on target, it just loses me in his approach and examples. It feels more like he's taken a great idea, one we should all realize, and then made it seem outlandish for consumer and publicity sake. We all need that reminder, remember what's important, since so many forms of media and society can side track us and delight in making us something we're not. This is all he's reminding us. Choose your battles, stand for something or fall for everything, etc. I really wanted to enjoy this more. It just goes a bit over the top sometimes, although there are some who need this to actually see it for themselves, which is why I went with 3 stars.

[mrdee0 · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

Okay. Some good advice. A bit contradictory in places.

[ravenzer · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

A wandering, rambling musing about a few good points. The style veers wildly between coming across as sincere and coming across as a gimmick. Many other have said the key points better since it was first published, so reading in 2024 was maybe unfair. Could use some citations for its quotes, anecdotes, and things "philosophers" or "psychologists" have said.

[ragwaine · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

At first, I thought I was going to hate this, but it turned out to be pretty good. I don't read "self-help" books because I feel like my life is lacking, I haven't ever suffered trauma, I've led a charmed life with great, loving parents, no abuse, no addiction, no health problems and I was only "poor" when I was too young to know what that was. I do find other people's take on "what makes people happy" interesting though so decided to give it a try.

In this case, it was more of a Buddhist calmness than a "screw everybody I don't care about anything" focus. It talked about defining success (loved the Dave Mustaine story). I mean I've never gave a F*ck about what people thought about me, but maybe that's because everyone's always liked me and I'm kind of the "calm in the storm" in almost every situation, so he was kind of preaching to the choir. One of my favorite sayings (that I made up, I think) is "If all else fails, lower your standards". His take was more a "get used to life sucking" and "from failure, there's no place to go but up".

[tonyralmeida · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Honestly, as a self-help book, I really did not like it that much, but the way some stories are depicted, plus the fact that the narrator did a nice jog (I listened to the audiobook), it made it interesting.

[grammapollyreads · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

While this book presents as a how-to, it is really more of a thought-provoking text. It seemed to be a bit tongue-in-cheek in places. I know there is another review that likened the author to the drunk guy at the end of the bar doling out life advice. Honestly, there is a bit of that going on. However, I found myself thinking about certain aspects of my life as I was reading this. The overall message of this book is that ultimately we have very little control over the people around us; in the end, we need to choose what we are going to spend our energy on.

In the end, this was just a fun read that provided a few thought-provoking moments.

[siok-76276 · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

Key takeaways: 1. You need to give a fuck but you choose what to give a fuck to. 2. What you give a fuck to depends on your values. Overhyped but I guess you can still learn something from it.

[steven.skytower · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

After having read the book, I honestly don't understand half of the hype that surrounded it's release.

The title draws you in and then Mr. Manson's use of colorful language is meant to shock. The advice given isn't terribly far off from what you might expect from a High school football coach or a stern parent.

All in all, I don't feel that there is anything to gain from reading the book.

[gregheth-923571 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

Excellent, no nonsense book.

[rickgeissal · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

This is a vrey funny book that appears to me to contain a lot of truth from a perspective that was new for me. Worthwhile.

[ericlee_1 · Calificación: 1 de 5 estrellas]

I admit that it's a great title. And the opening few pages are kind of cute. And then -- nothing. The book has absolutely nothing to say. And it's based on nothing, other than Mark Manson's life story which is, frankly, not all that interesting. It's written in a blokey, sexist way -- almost as if, foul language excluded, it could have been written in the 1950s. I have absolutely no idea why over ten million copies of this book were sold. Manson has, apparently, written a sequel or two. But I couldn't give a fuck. Don't waste your time.

[dilip1kumar-572329 · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

The author starts with the impression that he doesn't give a f*** about anything, but don't be fooled - it is obvious he does, to the extent of actually writing a book about it. The point is that one should be selective about the things one cares about. In this area the book seems to be giving the usual insights into being master of the way we respond, valuing the long term, working for the enjoyment of work and not for becoming famous, etc., which may be called the standard Stoic attitude (also parts of the Gita and Buddhism). In fact these parts of the book are quite good, and perhaps the message might have been better conveyed without the unnecessary (and very American) bad language, which mercifully becomes less in the later parts of the text.

[caseyadamsstark · Calificación: 3 de 5 estrellas]

I chose to check this book out based on the title, which is an admittedly clever way to get people to read a self-help book. and while it was an entertaining read, I didn't necessarily come to a revelation about what was missing in my life. It did serve as a gentle reminder of the things that are important to keep in mind when life doesn't seem to be going your way. I've had those moments, usually while driving. So maybe I should keep it in my car as a not so subtle reminder that there's nothing I can do about the traffic, so relax.

If you need a brief reminder to put your problems in perspective, then by all means, give this book a read.

[clamairy · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

Well, there was a good book in here somewhere, buried under too many personal anecdotes, and a fair amount of navel gazing. I am glad I read it, but I will take the advice in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck with multiple grains of salt.
3½ stars

[amcheri-1 · Calificación: 1 de 5 estrellas]

Definitely written by and for straight, white, entitled males. I have no fucks to give for this book or the author.

[tuusannuuska-1 · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

I don't have a system for rating nonfiction, so I'm gonna go with "I really liked it, but I didn't think it was amazing."

I enjoyed the no nonsense approach; no coddling, no special snowflakes, no pretending we're all special. The fact is, we're all pretty mediocre, and we'll all die in the end. The trick is accepting this and learning to be happy with it, because there's nothing wrong with not being special.

[velvet6moonlight · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

First I will comment on the Audiobook specifically. The narrator Roger Wayne did a fantastic job. He made the story sound natural as if he was speaking from his own experience, not reading someone else's book. The only downside I have about listening to it as my main format is that I didn't allow myself to stop and absorb certain points over others. Such is the nature of an audiobook, the pace is consistent and never slows or speeds up. This is a book that you benefit from pondering, sitting at some chapters and absorbing the new perspectives. I am going to go and purchase the book itself so I can do just this. On the other hand, I will probably re-listen to it in the future as well, it flowed so nicely and was a short 5hrs and 27 minutes.

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Now, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a nice indirect way to describe the lessons within. RIght there in the title, you know what you're getting yourself into, but now how you get there. And it's not exactly by "not giving a f*ck." My favorite lesson in this book is basically 'Give better fucks, have better problems.' You aren't going to escape pain, it is something we all face our entire lives, but it is up to you whether or not the pain will be purposeful or not. Each chapter breaks down different points to the larger idea of living your best life, what it means to treat problems differently, consequences (with real-life historical examples) of not doing so, etc. I could go on, but truthfully I would rather you all read it yourself. I began to feel less tense, less anxious, in my day-to-day life while I was reading this. I had already begun to subconsciously apply the perspectives I was learning about without having to consciously remind myself of any bogus 'affirmations.' This book steers you away from what you lack and helps you tap into listening to yourself to find what is already inside of you that you need. Powerful stuff.

[alisony-1 · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

I recently joined a new gym that's a breath of fresh air. The owner is as focused on building your mental strength as your physical, and on my first day last week she lent me this book to read.

If the f-word offends then this is not the book for you, as Manson is pretty potty-mouthed and likes to throw it around liberally. He's a funny yet smart guy, and I enjoyed this read for the anecdotes as much as anything. I know the point of these kinds of books is self-improvement, but I couldn't help snickering at the description of a self-involved narcissist which was my ex-boss to a T, and the phrase 'the small dog barks the loudest', which is my husband's current boss in a nut shell.

Bosses past and present aside, there are a few nuggets of wisdom that are worth holding onto from this book, such as whilst we're not to blame for certain things that happen to us, we are 100% responsible for how we choose to respond to them, even the hard and painful things.

Like pretty much every other self-help book I've read, there were no life-changing moments for me from reading this book, but there are some good recalibrating / reaffirming messages. We're not special (and if we think we are we're seriously devoid of room for growth) and it's positive to screw up regularly.

4 stars - a fun read with some important points put across in a very non-serious way.

[ennuiprayer · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

By far the best self-help book I've read. (That's not saying a lot as I avoid reading self-help books.) I do recommend it for those who do read them religiously.

[knightlight777 · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

Though there were some good points and perspectives made the theme became gimmicky stemming right from the title of the book casting the lure. Manson covers a wide range of topics tied mainly to deciphering what is truly important in our lives and what is wasteful to spend a lot of time on.

He relates all of it to his experiences and discoveries and it caused me to wonder what made him such an authority on the matter. In checking his background I concluded, not much. He seems to have been an adventurer and probably somewhat a bad boy who a some point came to his senses as he like most of us matured into an adult or semi-adult.

It was worthwhile getting his take on things but I kept thinking that this is one guys opinion and limited at best considering his age. But stay tune there will be many more books to follow on his formulaic approach, aha!

[brett.sovereign · Calificación: 2 de 5 estrellas]

Not enough interesting, funny, or insightful material. Feels padded, and the title phrase gets old fast.

[sjh4255 · Calificación: 5 de 5 estrellas]

This is an amazingly simple yet powerful book on how to simplify your life and how to really change your outlook on life and question the values you have and get you thinking on how you can change for the better. As the title indicates, there’s no filter on Marks writing, but at the same time it really gets the point across.

[tonifgmamtc · Calificación: 4 de 5 estrellas]

4.5 stars

I recommend this one. It's about figuring out what is important to you. You can't be worried about having everything, doing everything, etc. It's okay to be average. TSAONGAF is entertaining and doesn't hold back from telling you like it is.